Discussion about this post

User's avatar
Jack The Bodiless's avatar

This has been a really good read for me. Next summer my estranged wife will be moving to a new town and taking the kids and cats with her, and I will be moving there too to provide support and to be near my daughter (my stepdaughter may not even notice if I stay). I’ll be living on my own for the first time in twenty-five years, in a strange town where I’m vaguely acquainted with maybe two people. I’m scared. But I have a whole year to prepare myself for it. Practically, to make sure we can move a house full of people and cats and things into two different places in a strange town, buying all the extra furniture and kitchen bits we’ll need, getting my little starfish into a new school and my ex and my stepdaughter into new jobs… practically, and mentally. I’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD, autism and general anxiety disorder, and I’m very concerned that this is all going to be too much for me to cope with, but my ex has significant issues about half of the time, and relies on me to be the functioning adult and parent when she can’t be. So I have to be brave, and I have to keep it together.

Not sure why I’ve just typed all that to someone I don’t know, except that I do, because I’m a writer and some of that represents fears that I’ve only occasionally vocalised, and some of that represents conclusions that I kind of came to as I was writing it. If you got to the end of all that, then you’re reading my apology right now for unloading my dishwasher onto your kitchen counter. Sorry! Happy Tuesday!

Expand full comment
Baba Ö's avatar

A fantastic and insightful article. Thank you Abigail.

Expand full comment
2 more comments...

No posts